"If it’s good, it’s wonderful, if it’s bad, it’s experience… "
I've been discussing about 'growing pains' this afternoon with Kayle in the secret garden. Instead of reviewing for our first two subjects in our Prelims week, I've come to the point that I'm explaining what makes us feel inadequate in some point of our lives. And how this inadequacy may help us strive more in life and to reach that actualization, if we wanted to do so.
He told me that he really felt dumped nowadays, while he found me kidding around those Economics formulas I've never understood. Bakit ba ang saya mo?, he asked. I just smiled back.
Then he began ranting about his feelings of being lost in somewhere, the situation where we feel worthless and can't move on to the future. I just simply answered, he is experiencing growing pains.
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I should have told him that 'growing-up pains' is the right term (and it was just too late to realize that growing pains are literally the pain you feel when your physical, yes your body, is growing). Growing pain is a pain in the neck (or in your ass, or any part of your body) to indicate that your getting taller or whatever transformation you'll have. And, this, growing-up pains are emotional, thus, making it hard for me to explain further why it's psychological.
We would all want to hate growing pains. It feels like this pain wants to stop us from regressing if we want to be childish. While we enjoy sometimes being immature, we got stucked in that status quo. We don't want to move a little. We won't like to move more. It's like, we'll be such a pain in our own ass if we do. But if we don't, we become victims of our ourselves: being unable to decide for our own and hate that we must accept the fact that we have choices in our lives and the trick is, we must choose the best option. It doesn't only entail the choosing part, but also being brave to stick to that option.
The feelings of being lost just tells us how we alienate ourselves by being unconsciously selfish. We decide for own sake and yet, we say we decided and we chose. But up to what degree does one's decision-making measures one's maturity?
If you decided to hate growing pains, I guess, you're not growing up. You're really stucked somewhere. But by the time that you accepted it, we can all embrace the fact that in this world, there is always a beauty in the breakdown.
It takes time to overcome this different kind of pain. I can say, I'm going through it. And I believe, people in my age, goes through it. All of us will go through this. And someday, we'll be able to say, we've done through it.
Growing-up pains are natural. It is a whirlwind of emotions. A beautiful chaos. The most bearable pain.
You don't need a doctor or psychiatrist to overcome it. It is just one of the ways that you can fully appreciate and understand yourself by feeling insecurities, inadequateness, worthlessness or any other emotions that would drop your esteem so low. As ironic as it may seem, I guess, we all have to mature even if we don't like it.
We can't stay in equilibrium. Growing-up pains existed to make us feel the need to get out of our own nustshells. We all have the need to grow up even not to fully grow up. At least, we are taking part in our own growing up.
This kind of pain don't force us to grow. Kaya nga pain eh. It just merely means, it is part of our being human, it may push you further to see tomorrow or get you confused. And pain is not what life is all about. That would just sound emo or what, sorry. It is how you deal with pain since pain is only a part of growing up. So why not choose to smile through the pain? :)
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A week to go and I'm really feeling 20-ish. I can't hide the fact that I'm feeling giddy despite the fact that I'm getting a year older. OMIGASH. Sorry for the redundancy.
And hell, I'm loving/hating the more-responsibilities-feeling. And heck, I guess this is my growing-up pain at the moment. Hihi. :))
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Spam your life with positivity. Remember, there won't be a better tomorrow if you can't move on from today. Move up! God will always make our own stories an epic! :)
I've been discussing about 'growing pains' this afternoon with Kayle in the secret garden. Instead of reviewing for our first two subjects in our Prelims week, I've come to the point that I'm explaining what makes us feel inadequate in some point of our lives. And how this inadequacy may help us strive more in life and to reach that actualization, if we wanted to do so.
He told me that he really felt dumped nowadays, while he found me kidding around those Economics formulas I've never understood. Bakit ba ang saya mo?, he asked. I just smiled back.
Then he began ranting about his feelings of being lost in somewhere, the situation where we feel worthless and can't move on to the future. I just simply answered, he is experiencing growing pains.
---
I should have told him that 'growing-up pains' is the right term (and it was just too late to realize that growing pains are literally the pain you feel when your physical, yes your body, is growing). Growing pain is a pain in the neck (or in your ass, or any part of your body) to indicate that your getting taller or whatever transformation you'll have. And, this, growing-up pains are emotional, thus, making it hard for me to explain further why it's psychological.
We would all want to hate growing pains. It feels like this pain wants to stop us from regressing if we want to be childish. While we enjoy sometimes being immature, we got stucked in that status quo. We don't want to move a little. We won't like to move more. It's like, we'll be such a pain in our own ass if we do. But if we don't, we become victims of our ourselves: being unable to decide for our own and hate that we must accept the fact that we have choices in our lives and the trick is, we must choose the best option. It doesn't only entail the choosing part, but also being brave to stick to that option.
The feelings of being lost just tells us how we alienate ourselves by being unconsciously selfish. We decide for own sake and yet, we say we decided and we chose. But up to what degree does one's decision-making measures one's maturity?
If you decided to hate growing pains, I guess, you're not growing up. You're really stucked somewhere. But by the time that you accepted it, we can all embrace the fact that in this world, there is always a beauty in the breakdown.
It takes time to overcome this different kind of pain. I can say, I'm going through it. And I believe, people in my age, goes through it. All of us will go through this. And someday, we'll be able to say, we've done through it.
Growing-up pains are natural. It is a whirlwind of emotions. A beautiful chaos. The most bearable pain.
You don't need a doctor or psychiatrist to overcome it. It is just one of the ways that you can fully appreciate and understand yourself by feeling insecurities, inadequateness, worthlessness or any other emotions that would drop your esteem so low. As ironic as it may seem, I guess, we all have to mature even if we don't like it.
We can't stay in equilibrium. Growing-up pains existed to make us feel the need to get out of our own nustshells. We all have the need to grow up even not to fully grow up. At least, we are taking part in our own growing up.
This kind of pain don't force us to grow. Kaya nga pain eh. It just merely means, it is part of our being human, it may push you further to see tomorrow or get you confused. And pain is not what life is all about. That would just sound emo or what, sorry. It is how you deal with pain since pain is only a part of growing up. So why not choose to smile through the pain? :)
---
A week to go and I'm really feeling 20-ish. I can't hide the fact that I'm feeling giddy despite the fact that I'm getting a year older. OMIGASH. Sorry for the redundancy.
And hell, I'm loving/hating the more-responsibilities-feeling. And heck, I guess this is my growing-up pain at the moment. Hihi. :))
---
Spam your life with positivity. Remember, there won't be a better tomorrow if you can't move on from today. Move up! God will always make our own stories an epic! :)
2 comments:
So how do we overcome this kind of pain?
i believe we have different wasy to deal with it as well as overcoming it. :)
btw, who's this anonymous? LOL/
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